The Kind of people you will met in Networking

In this profession of ours where most people aren't "entrepreneurial," rejection is natural and normal in our type of business. For every 20 people you present your business to, expect 19 "no's" for every "yes." You may do better than that, but expect 19 rejections. This way, the rejections won't bother you. Also, realize that they're not rejecting YOU—they're simply rejecting an idea. Just keep moving ahead.

Always bear that at the back of our minds and keep your focus straight and strong when rejection happens. And remember that you're now one step closer to the next "yes."

Be persistent, ignore the rejections, and you'll get more than enough "yes's" to build a successful business.

"You can experience rejection for free or you can do it for money. Nobody likes rejection but it is a fact of life in just about every thing you do. In business, deal with it or stay poor." 

-Jack M. Zufelt

"Defeat is simply a signal to press onward."

-Helen Keller

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit."

-Napoleon Hill

Simple Tips to Overcome Laziness

What Is Laziness?

It is the desire to be idle, to do nothing, and to resist effort.
We all enjoy being lazy, such as after working hard for several hours or days. However, if doing nothing occurs too often, something has to be done about it.
In order to live to the fullest, and achieve success, we must learn how to overcome laziness.

Simple Tips for Overcoming Laziness:

1) Break down a task into smaller tasks
We often avoid tasks because we find them too big, too overwhelming, too tiring, or taking too much of our time. Breaking a task into several smaller tasks can solve this problem. Then, each one will not seem so difficult. which do not require too much effort.
This approach can be applied not only to tasks, but also to goals and everything else we have or need to do. This will tend to melt much of the laziness and inner resistance we often experience.
2) Rest, sleep and exercise
In some cases, laziness is due to being tired and lacking energy. If this is true in your case, you need to give yourself the rest and sleep you need, and also give your body enough exercise and fresh air.
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3) Motivation
 The reason for laziness is due to lack of motivation. You can strengthen your motivation through affirmations, visualization and thinking about the importance of performing your task or achieving your goal.
4) Have a vision of what and who you want to be
Frequently reflecting on the person we want to be, the goals we want to achieve, and the life we want to live, can motivate us to act.
5) Think about benefits
Think about the benefits you will gain if you overcome your laziness and take action, instead of thinking about the difficulties or obstacles. Focusing on the difficulties of carrying out the task, leads to discouragement, avoidance of taking action and to laziness. It is important that you focus your mind and attention on the benefits, not on the difficulties.
6) Thinking about the consequences
Think about what will happen, if you succumb to laziness, and don't perform your task or chore. Thinking about the consequences of not acting, can also push you to take action.
7) Doing one thing at a time
Focus on doing one thing at a time. If you feel you have a lot to do, you will probably feel overwhelmed and let laziness overcome you, instead of you overcoming laziness.
8) Visualization
Your imagination has a great influence on your mind, habits and action. Visualize yourself performing the task easily, energetically and enthusiastically. Do so before starting with a task or goal, and also when you feel lazy, or when your mind whispers to you to abandon what you are doing.
9) Repeat affirmations
Tell yourself:
"I can accomplish my goal."
"I have the energy and motivation to act and do whatever I want or have to do."
"Doing things makes me stronger."
"Doing things makes things happen."
10) Regards a task as an exercise
Consider each task as an exercise to make you stronger, more decisive and more assertive.
11) Procrastination
Avoid procrastination, which is a form of laziness. If there is something you have to do, why not do it right now and get through with it? Why let it stay nagging at the back of your head?
12) Learn from successful people
Watch successful people, and how they do not let laziness win. Learn from them, talk with them and associate with them.
Overcoming the habit of laziness is achieved through a series of daily actions and activities, when you choose to act, instead of remaining passive. Every time you overcome your laziness you get stronger. Every time you choose to act, you increase your ability to win, achieve goals and improve your life.

4 Principles That Can Make You Successful In No Less Time

To be successful is really a big deal, but the truth is that everyone is already a success. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines success as, “a person that succeeds.” which means. The key to long term success in life is your Education and skills, your life Experiences, and most of all, personal character.

Everything is hard before it is easy always put that at the back of your mind. It takes time and conscious effort to make it work. As humans, we often have a very twisted definition of success and this makes us depressed when it looks like we’re not “arrive yet”.

If you  keep asking questions “If  we are not there yet?” You’ll never enjoy the process. A much better question is, “Where are we now?” It creates an opportunity to explore and appreciate the momentary happenings.

I am not saying you have to have billion in your account before you can add been successful to your name. It means simply reaching a point where when you look back, you can clearly recognize you have self discipline, broken limits and scaled borders you never thought were possible for you.

So here are principles you can apply to your work and life to ensure when you look back in No less time from now, you feel grateful for what you done:

1. Daily Exercise

Focus and concentration are center of success. The ability to carry out daily exercise on what you want and concentrate on a single minded on achieve it, is one best exercise one can do. I made a decision to write on a daily basis, it sounded nice, right. When I started, I had to wonder whether or not I was in my right senses when I made that commitment.

Mastery takes time. Consistent daily practice in whatever you doing, in no less time you will see how successful you are become to be.

Little drops make a mighty ocean. Nonetheless, you can’t compare one drop per week to the same drop per day. The latter makes a mighty ocean faster.

So I encourage you to start from where you are now, with whatever you have and just don’t procrastinate, because it had killed so many persons dream.

2.  Your Comfort Zone

A comfort zone is a place where you’re most confident and comfortable. It’s not a place where you’re lazy. We are all comfortable at what have we are into, it can be our business, lifestyle and house etc

A singer is most confident and comfortable when he sings. Same with a craftsman when he creates, a writer when he writes, a work-from-home entrepreneur when he works from home, and so on.

When one leveraging is comfort zone then means pushing yourself to limits you never thought you could be pushed to. It means learning everything you need to know about your Field and implementing everything. It could mean writing books instead of just articles, creating a design course instead of just designing for clients, or helping people get medical help.

However, to get to the point where you’re able to perfectly leverage your comfort zone, you need to build expertise through practice. That’s the next point.

“You cannot push anyone up a ladder unless he be willing to climb a little himself.” – Andrew Carnegie

3. The Right Platform

When Napoleon Hill, One of the most influential bestsellers of all time of Think and grow rich, when Hill started writing, he was ask by Andrew Carnegie if he would spend 20 years or more carrying the message of what he was writing  to individual in the world, he said yes and  today, over 15 million copies sold worldwide.

The right platform isn’t just defined by what format your work is in. It’s also defined by where you feel most comfortable (remember our point on comfort zone?). The right platform could be online or offline. The bottom line is you’re sharing something through a medium that reaches a certain number of people.

Don’t bother about going viral with what you share, or getting 100 likes every time. You’ll be tempted to, but that’s not the point. Stay focused on being a success every day. Push yourself beyond limits right there in your comfort zone. In a couple of years, you’ll be surprised at how those little drops make you mighty. Anyone who comes in contact with you wouldn’t know when they get drowned in your work.

“I never dreamt of success. I worked for it.” – Este Lauder

4. Daily Time Management

Begin daily time management by making a list, write down everything you have to do. The best time to make this List is the Night before, write down every activities you want to carry out the next day. Always arrange the list according to scale of important. Using the A-E time management base on the consequence if you fail to carry out the task, never leave task A for B, if you not done with A tasks.

How are you creating momentum towards success today? Comment below and let us know!

Tips on how to Increase Your Charisma

It is very difficult for some of us to mention names of persons who can walk into any gathering and instantly become the center of attention. Some people seem to have a sort of natural charisma that make them successful in any situations.

Meanwhile, a large number of people out there lack any sort of natural charisma. These persons  can be the smartest, but hardly express their self in public gathering. While it is possible to go through life without any charisma, not being able to carry on a conversation and not being able to make friends easily can make your life significantly harder.

Here are 9 tips that will help make you more charismatic:

1. Proper posture

One way to make yourself more charismatic to those around you is to have proper posture. You should sit up straight and make yourself as tall as possible. Do not lean on your elbows or do anything like that. Sit up straight with your hands either at your sides or in front of you.

Believe it or not, having correct posture actually makes you feel more confident, which then makes you feel more willing to engage in conversation. When you are more willing to engage in conversation, you will appear more charismatic and more charming to those around you.

2. The power of physical contact

The ability to know when physical contact is needed is very important. Uncharismatic people tend to shun physical contact and often do not know when to do it appropriately.

For you to increase your level of charismatic,  you must master when physical contact is appropriate and when it is not. For example, if a friend is sad or not happy, a word of encourage can go a very long way and help that individual to come out for that mood or situation.

Sometimes physical contact is even more appropriate than mere money.

3. Non-verbal cues

Many people will not state how they are feeling. People will always tell you they are feeling fine, even when deep down they are not. However, just because they do not say how they feel does not mean they do not give any clues.

You can often tell how a person is feeling about something based on facial expressions or body language. This should tell you what type of mood they are in and how you should interact with them. We often associate charisma with things like telling good stories or making people laugh, yet a big part of charisma is simply knowing what type of things to say (or not to say) to people. Part of the way you figure out what to say to people is by reading their body language.

“I speak two languages, Body and English.” – Mae West

4. Know when to use Joke

Know when to make jokes and what type of jokes to make. often, people constantly throw out jokes on the false assumption that it makes them likable. The choice of a joke is just as important as its contents. Making jokes at the wrong time makes you come off as uncharismatic. So, read the mood of others around you before throwing out a joke.

5. Ask questions

We usually do not consider asking questions to be “charismatic,” but asking questions, and specifically the right kind of questions, is a great way to keep a conversation going.

People love to talk about themselves and they love to talk about what they are interested in. Charismatic people know this, which is why a charismatic person will spend as little time talking about themselves as possible.

Also, asking questions, you can find common areas of interest, which will allow you to expand your conversation topics.

6. Know how to listen effectively

The ability to learn how to listen to what the other party is saying effectively is the key to a good charismatic.

You will agree with me that most persons love to  be with good listeners, well it is true and it applies to everyone. Sometimes, people simply want to talk to someone who will actually listen to their problems.

Knowing how to be a good listener will make people like you more since good listeners are so rare.

“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”- Ernest Hemingway

7. Always remember the names of people you meet

You may see it as small thing, but very important tip to improve your charismatic. Remembering a person’s name is a great way of signaling to them that they are important, which makes them feel better.

8. Learn to talk with your hands

Believe it or not, using your hand while talking does make you come across as more charismatic.  I don’t mean that you should be swinging your hands everywhere, but some light hand gestures while telling a story can help make people more engrossed in what you are saying

9. Try to Reduce filler from your vocabulary

We occasionally make use of this words while talking, for example the “umm” or an “uuuh” when talking (especially if we are telling a long story), but you should try reduce the number of times that you use filler words like the ones we just mentioned. A hallmark of charisma is being able to talk for a long time without using a lot of filler. The best way to go about this is to simply keep track of how often you use filler words and slowly work on improving your speaking skills.

Which one of these tips are you going to start to implement? Let us know by commenting below!

What A Daily Gratitude Tracker Did To My Mindset.

I’ve read the books of every self-help, inspiring person I could get my hands on. I’ve done the same in the podcast world too.

The topic of gratitude comes up almost every time. While I lied to myself and pretended I practiced gratitude, the truth was I didn’t – I just told myself I did.

Then one day, enough was enough. I realized I was taking my career for granted. I took the following three steps to practice daily gratitude:

1. I went into Microsoft Word and created a blank document called “Gratitude Tracker” and saved it on my desktop.
2. I set a calendar reminder for 9 am every day called “Gratitude Exercise.”
3. Without fail, every day, I entered in three things I was grateful for.

I used to think I was grateful.

This 3-step process taught me I was not. The feeling before and after is totally different. When you keep a gratitude tracker for a minimum of 30 days straight, you’ll notice a shift. I found myself becoming less greedy and my craving for material objects decreased.

I saw the simplicity in the world through crystal clear vision and the benefits that came with it.

I found gratitude in the smallest things.

Do you want to know what ended up in my gratitude tracker? Small things like fresh water to drink, lunches with clients and feeling valued in my team at work. Before having a gratitude tracker, I would never have found happiness in such small things.

Other things that showed up were:

– Finding a beautiful girlfriend
– My career
– Being able to overcome my fear of flying
– My mentors
– Drinking tea
– Having a blogging audience
– Overseas travel
– Nice text messages from family and friends

It forces you to look for the good.

I found out my career was down the toilet. On that particular day, I didn’t feel like seeing the good in the world. My habit of writing in a gratitude tracker forced me to.

“No matter what, I had convinced myself that not coming up with three things I was grateful for daily equaled failure”

I look everywhere in my life to find something that I could be happy about. Having to look so hard to find good made me realize that it’s actually pretty easy. Good is everywhere when we practice focusing on it.

This day was made much less challenging because of my gratitude tracker. My gratitude tracker became my emergency sanctuary that I could bask in like the sun when the thunderstorms of everyday life hit my little world – also known as my mindset.

Don’t overdo it.

Only list down three things in your gratitude tracker every day. Any more than that and you’ll get busy and then lie to yourself about not having time. Lack of time is a myth. Complication is what is truthfully stopping you from taking up these life-changing habits. Also, don’t write war and peace.

“This whole process should take about 45 seconds”

Overthinking and going into detail will force you to be lazy over time. Keep it “simple stupid” (an Aussie catchphrase).

What happens if you miss a day?

Don’t be angry with yourself – you deserve better. Just get back on the horsey and write double the list of things you are grateful for the next day. Feel free to mention things that you wrote down previously as being grateful for. The only goal when doing this is to write them in a different way.

Hearing the same thing over and over, said slightly differently, helps to reinforce it into the mindset you live your life with.

***Final words***

Gratitude only works when you practice it just like any “Success Habit.”

The self-help gurus may be exaggerating a lot of what success is but one thing they’re not wrong about is practicing gratitude. I’ve done my best to describe the feelings and changes to my mindset although ultimately you need to try it for yourself.

Fantasising about success will never get you close to it. Telling yourself to be more positive doesn’t really work either. Make gratitude be the vehicle you use to be positive and become successful in whatever pursuit you put your mind to.

Be bold. Be courageous. Practice gratitude.

By Tim Denning